Yesterday, I posted a photo on my Instagram showing my monthly habit tracker. (The check marks mean that I completed the habit for that day. Not a lot of check marks, right?) I like to check-in with my goals mid-month to see if I’m making progress or need to make adjustments.
I checked and updated this insert on Sunday night. Can I be honest with you? I was pretty disappointed with myself. Before the month began, I thought long and hard about the habits I wanted to cultivate this month. (I even blogged about my goals and habits it here!) I promised myself that I would take these habits seriously and would try to make serious progress. But look! There are so many empty boxes and not enough progress for me.
Then I had to remember the importance of extending grace to one’s self.
I like to take time to be still and think. It’s a good time for me to practice mindfulness. During my mindfulness time last night (Monday), I remembered how hard I was on myself about my lack of progress. But then I remembered that we are living in unprecedented times. I also remembered that I’m doing my best and that perhaps I was being too hard on myself in that moment.
The line between being too hard on yourself and not being hard enough can be a thin one. If you are too hard on yourself, you may struggle with recognizing and celebrating your wins, no matter how big or small. I was so preoccupied with the lack of check marks on the habit tracker that I failed to realize all of the times I met my goals and habits. Why not celebrate those (small) wins too?
But the other side can be harmful as well. If you don’t encourage yourself to go further and exceed your own expectations, what achievements will you miss? You are your own responsibility. If I’m too easy on myself, who knows what I won’t accomplish?
I’m not sure what the answer is. I think, though, that the answer is somewhere in the middle. It’s not as simple as black and white. Sometimes you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. Other times, you need to check yourself, especially when you know you can do better. (For example, I know I can do better with my “no spend” goal.)
The biggest takeaways from this mid-month check-in are patience and grace!
What steps are you taking to make sure that you are recognizing and celebrating your wins?